Years ago, as part of a mindfulness training, the wonderful meditation teacher Ed Halliwell, drew a line on a page. TIGHT and one end. LOOSE at the other. How do you live your life? he asked. But he had barely started writing when I was…
As a consultant, brought in to help change an organisational system in some way, I can often get frustrated with that system. There’s one thing I increasingly do that helps me that. And that’s apply some of the things I do when I’m irritated or…
Some recent posts have been on the theme of detachment, and this continues that theme. I’m reminding myself here of the practices I use that help me keep a bigger perspective. Heifetz talked about the importance of leaving the dance floor and heading up to…
What Matters Most: a new coaching programme Are you in touch with what matters most to you? Currently, I’m hearing from many people who feel they’re: • living their lives according to other people’s ‘shoulds’ • putting aside what matters to them in order to…
I hear this from a lot people: If I can only work out how to get on top of things and manage my time better, everything will be ok I can do some CBT for my anxiety and that will help me cope I don’t…
My work is all with people. Up close and mostly personal. And you know what’s coming. I see many people on the edge of burnout and overwhelm, not least through over-attending to the demands and needs of their job and families. At a more macro…
So my husband’s son died. It was an ‘out of order’ death (to use a phrase from psychotherapist and grief advocate Megan Devine) and and was very tough to process. In so many obvious and fitting ways, my husband’s grief was primary and mine secondary,…
‘Deepened by diminishment’ That phrase has stuck with me ever since I wrote about eldership and its relationship with leadership. Accepting that as we age, our lives get inevitably smaller, ‘eldership’ pushes back hard against that. Not in the sense of holding back the tide…
In the face of exhaustion, despair, pessimism and apathy, what role does hope play? How can we connect ourselves and others to the felt sense and a belief that tomorrow could be better than today? How is cultivating a sense of hope a responsibility of…
