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When the past is present

07 Nov 2016, Posted by Helena Clayton in Monthly Blog

Twice this week, I have seen someone write that coaching and therapy are different.  And that coaches must take great care not to drift into therapy.  True, they are different.  But in many ways, it’s a false distinction and there are many ways in which coaching…

Where have our feelings gone?

31 Oct 2016, Posted by Helena Clayton in Monthly Blog

I was running a session as part of leadership programme for high potential leaders in a global organisation. We’d got to the bit where we use FIRO-B, a psychometric tool that explores our relationship with our need for control, for closeness in our relationships and the…

Getting to know my jack-in-the-box

07 Jul 2016, Posted by Helena Clayton in Monthly Blog

‘Try as I might, I am unable to obscure, marginalise or shadow myself … like an annoying jack-in-the-box gone wrong, I do not disappear from sight, even momentarily’ . This wonderful quote from Venitha Pillay is often with me as I coach,  facilitate and consult with…

Joy and Leadership And Thich Naht Hanh

09 Jun 2016, Posted by Helena Clayton in Work as Love in Action

I’ve been thinking a lot about leadership culture recently. And you know that I’m interested in the idea of how leadership practices can be more loving. Well, I read How to Love  by Thich Naht Hanh, a book ostensibly about our close relationships but one…

The terrifying prospect of rewriting our old story

04 May 2016, Posted by Helena Clayton in Monthly Blog

Work as Love in Action 3: am I choosing to be generous? In leadership development, I often work with binaries, with different ends of a spectrum in order to explore something, maybe creating a false polarity to make a point. Are you a strategic or…

How I’m accessing space to create more space

22 Apr 2016, Posted by Helena Clayton in Monthly Blog

I’ve written in a previous blog how the need for space feels so pressing for leaders. And that a common coaching goal is to help leaders find where that space might be created. In some painful weeks of parallel process, I’ve been struggling with a similar issue….

Best Self? Or Full Self?

13 Mar 2016, Posted by Helena Clayton in Monthly Blog

When we lead, we often think that we have to show our best self to the world. That we need to present a bright and shiny version of ourselves in the belief that that’s what people want to see. We have a culture of perfectionism…

Bringing what’s different

01 Mar 2016, Posted by Helena Clayton in Monthly Blog

In OD or coaching, there’s often a call for us to bring something into the system that’s missing. We need to notice what’s not there and sometimes be that something. To be the difference that makes the difference. Which got me wondering about my own…